THE GOLDEN RULE.
We have been taught since elementary school the "Golden Rule", to treat others as you want to be treated. It is a great rule and is a valuable one to remember for the rest of your life. But is being nice always a good trait to have? There is always this stigma to be polite and kind to others.
But how far will "nice" really get you?
It is a dog eat dog world. It is not easy and you have to be tough and confident to get where you want to go. You cannot be successful and a pushover at the same time.
Being a nice person is a great trait to have, until it leads you to trust the wrong people.
Most people have seen the movie, Frozen (if not, what are you doing with your life. Like, seriously? Just go see it). Not only is the story line new and creative, it's actually funny!
How you are going to feel if you just go and WATCH THE MOVIE.
And in the movie, Frozen, the main character, Anna is the perfect example of being a nice person. She trusts everyone even if she has only known them for a couple of hours.
"And what's wrong with that?"
She always sees the good in people. She puts her trust and love into a young prince named Hans from the Southern Isles. And look where that got her, she was stuck with a frozen heart after her supposed true love and fiance left her to die so he could take over her kingdom.
Anna gave Hans her heart and expected him to protect her and the kingdom. In the end, like most people, he chose power and wealth over love. This is what being nice gets you. It is a curse put upon people so they get their hopes up just to be let down.
Being a "nice person" is not all that. It can lead to some really bad decisions. Like Anna choosing to put her faith and trust into Hans. People cannot go around living life and expect being nice to everyone will bring you good karma. Being nice just leads to expectations that you will never be mad or stay mad. Being nice leads to the expectations that you are always available to help out, lend a hand or ear when you already have a bunch of shit to do.
You realizing how right I am.
I have alwasy been labelled as a "nice person" by my friends, family and even by people I just met. I have an approachable face and people just seem to be comfortable coming to me and talking to me. I really identify myself with Anna. I have the same tendencies and enjoy looking at life with happiness and hope. But as I look deeper, I realize the struggles of being nice. For example, I am never taken seriously when I am angry or frsutrated. People just assume I will get over it quickly or that I'm just not really mad. That I can't be mad.
BUT on the other hand, being nice and trustworthy is not always a bad thing to be. In the movie Frozen, Anna also puts her trust and love into her sister, Elsa. Elsa believed she was bad and could not be helped. Anna knew better so she goes on a journey to help and protect her sister. In the end, Anna was right, love is powerful. Elsa was the one to cure Anna's frozen heart.
Anna believed in Elsa. When Elsa realized this as well, she became the queen she was meant to be.
So my final advice is, to be like Olaf. A happy snowman!
